i hate someone who i loved and they manipulated me emotionally and mentally and i. really dont want to hate them i want to like them like everyone else does yet i cant bring myself to do it and. i dont know where this question is going your post just made me think of it and even though it happened a few months ago it still hurts me and,,i dont know, should i forgive and forget by now?
you have no obligation to continue loving this person and you don’t have to forgive them. it’s your choice. consider how badly they wronged you? do you think it could happen again? do you need them back in your life? perhaps it’s awkward if you’re close friends with their close friends but you still do not have to keep anyone in your life who has wronged you unless you truly believe you want them back in your life.
i feel like i do know what that’s like, loving and trusting someone and being betrayed by them. I still think about it every day and it hurts me and personally I want this person out of my life (not someone who my post necessarily applies to) but i can’t get rid of them just yet. I don’t even know if i want to give them a chance when the time comes that i can cut them out of my life because they’re so toxic to me and i feel like it’s too much of a burden. It’s a hard choice to make but perhaps weigh the costs of each choice? consider what do you have to gain or lose from trying to forgive them versus moving on from them.
i hope this helps even somewhat sorry if my response is confusing and doesn’t come to a conclusion. short version you are not obligated to forgive them but you can if you feel you would be better off that way. if it causes you too much pain to think about them perhaps they’re better off not being a part of your life again.
name: Kim height: 5’10” eye colour: Green birthday: June 12th favorite colour: Pink best schoolsubject(s): English, I used to like art but college art is really o____o
current shirt colour: Black day or night: Night religion: Uncertain. I don’t formally practice any. gender: Female sexual orientation: I say lesbian because it’s easy but I don’t fully identify with that. Maybe gynesexual but the definition is still unclear to me and i don’t know if it’s only for non-binary people to use. single or taken: I’m not “taken” but I’m in a relationship :> celebrity crush: Kayo Satoh <3 coffee or tea: Coffee
how about instead of getting fixated on hating specific people you just get a fuckin life and do something with yourself besides exist and be pathetic because i know a lot of fucking pathetic people like that
Saw your post on gender. Thought it made sense but the only thing that makes me a bit uncomfortable is when people headcanon (not AU) a character as a gender they don't identify as (regardless if cis or trans or otherwise). It just seems like misgendering.
[shrugs] i understand the feeling, but i value representation for people like me and my friends over the potential hurt feelings of a person who doesn’t actually exist any day. also, there’s barely any room for non-binary headcanons if that’s how you roll, and personally, im more than ready to ignore a couple things from canon to make room.
Xジェンダー (x-jendā) is the most common term I’ve found in my research thus far on an identity that is neither man nor woman in Japan, comparable to the English-language terms genderqueer or the more neutral term non-binary. Collected here are a list of some of the most informative and engaging sites…
I think the only way for me to actually care about and not feel uncomfortable with a male/female ship involving a girl character I’m attracted to is if I understand the romantic and/or sexual appeal of the male character involved
Then I think about some of the m/f couples I actually do really love and care about and
I’ve seen the argument a few times that like “headcanoning this feminine male character as trans or non-binary is oppressive in that it reinforces the idea that gender presentation and gender identity are the same thing.” And I do see where you’re coming from with that. But I don’t agree.
I headcanon almost all characters as trans or non-binary, whether their presentation is ambiguous or not.
Presentation is generally all we have to go on. There might be some characters who state “I am cis-binary” pretty unambiguously, but honestly not a lot. While it is true that for a lot of real people, their gender presentation and gender identity do not line up, there is no reason to assume that is true of fictional characters. Character design is specifically done in order to tell you about the character. The way a character, and especially an animated character, looks, is meant to tell you things about who they are.
Fuck cis readings of characters. I’m tired of cis readings. I don’t need more cis men in my media. If anything, I need significantly less cis men in my media.
A lot of people producing media either do not know anything about trans and non-binary people, or do not have editorial permission to write trans and non-binary characters. I honestly get the impression that a lot of characters wtih non-normative gender presentation are attempts by media-producers to portray people with genders that they do not fully understand or do not have permission to portray openly.
Lastly and most importantly, saying that only cis headcanons are appropriate for feminine male characters reinforces and strengthens a culture of transmisogyny. It is the same cultural ideal under which cis men are praised for being gender transgressive while trans women and dmab non-binary people are punished for their self-expression. A culture that praises cis men while punishing dmab trans and non-binary people is disgusting, and not something that I want to support. I encourage you not to support it, either.
I am not saying that you have to headcanon feminine male characters as trans or non-binary, but if you are uncomfortable with other people doing so, I consider that a problem.
if anyone at your panel gives you a hard time then an anime schoolgirl in the audience is going to destroy them i promise you that
That’s comforting to know!! ;v;
We’ll have to make it very clear at the start of the panel that the purpose of our panel is not to have a debate but to celebrate the possibility of these characters being queer and any questions/comments which question the validity of these interpretations won’t be welcomed in this space. We’re trying to have fun and bring attention to how the possible queerness of these characters is so often overlooked/erased in this fandom when it should really be recognized especially considering how much material in this particular story could suggest such things, so a lighthearted ask panel will hopefully give people a fun way to ask questions and explore the different characters’ identities. People who aren’t there to have a good time or to argue and be negative should not plan to attend.
what exactly will this panel be focusing on? headcanons on hange's gender (tumblr)? talking about ymir and reiners dialogue on that one page (canon instances)? i'm a little confused on the "lgbtq" part of this panel.
AHAHAAHA IT HAPPENED wow that took zero time at all
first of all it’s an ask panel. that implies that the attendees of the panel ask in-character panelists questions. it’s a pretty common type of panel. There are many other snk panels already in the works for the con, including i believe a straight up ask panel (haha ha straight i’m fucking funny)
there’s going to be seven of us in character as characters who are either canonically or heavily implied to be lgbtq. we have pretty much full representation, including asexuals/aromantics and bisexuals/pansexuals. We’re hoping to have some good discussion as well as having a little fun with it.
AND NOW A CUT BECAUSE FUCK Y O U
YOU FOUND THE ONE THING THAT MAKES ME REALLY. FUCKING. ANGRY.
i dont think its unreasonable to be upset about that
I hope it doesn’t seem too ridiculous because even though I was just admiring someone one-sidedly it was a positive experience for me and I’ve been feeling so down about this all day and I’m unsure if I’ll be able to get over it easily
If you want to talk about racism in regards to ideas of gender in other cultures, claiming a country does not have a concept of being trans/non-binary is ridiculously fucking racist and ignorant like how can you explain that other than because you believe their language/culture is less advanced and people are incapable of understanding such concepts or communicating their own identities with their own language. Obviously the language and wording used is different everywhere and there isn’t always one directly equivalent word but every language has its own way to communicate the same idea, it just sometimes has to be simplified when talking to people who have little experience with trans people (which is true anywhere in the world), perhaps slightly more often in countries where trans people get less media exposure and are not recognized as much by society as a whole. The amount of media exposure and general understanding in society as a result of that is the only real difference but it doesn’t mean people are not capable of understanding trans/non-binary identities if they are explained to them or they identify that way themselves. Any trans identity is a universal concept amongst all humans and there are always words to communicate these concepts in any language. You really can’t claim a culture doesn’t have a concept of these things without believing that their language and culture are more simple and that’s fucked up.
Claiming that trans and/or non-binary people can’t exist in other countries because of cultural differences and that different cultures do not have a concept of being trans or non-binary implies that one “becomes” trans through external influences which is completely incorrect and also a harmful idea.
trans and non-binary people exist worldwide if someone is trans it’s inherrently in their mind it doesn’t matter where or how they have been raised and socialized.
things that should convince me to watch a series but actually get it on my “yeah ill watch it and like it someday….” list
really good character design
interesting and innovative plot
addressing deep themes in a respectful and thought-provoking way
importance to the people who are important to me
a beautiful avoidance of common media problems
having earned a reputation as a classic
things that actually convince me to watch a series
cute boys getting beat up
I wish so hard that Bleach was shorter and I could recommend it because it literally is cute boys getting beat up and shiny animation (at least at some point). Like, that’s it that’s the plot.
Honestly, the only reason I’m not getting back into Bleach is that I clearly remember the filler episodes being unbearably awful my first time through. And the manga wouldn’t have bright colours and shiny animation so what is even the point.
The bleach fillers are pretty terrible but also completely optional and are mainly big filler arcs that can be easily skipped instead of being spread out a lot throughout the show? If that means anything
Gurren Lagann means a whole lot to me because the basic premise of Kamina’s catchphrase is:
"Wow, you don’t believe in yourself? I’m not going to tell you that you’re wrong for feeling that way, but I believe in you. If you believe in me, too, we can support each other where we need it the most. And maybe someday you’ll see in yourself what I see in you."
And thinking about that makes me tear up, not gonna lie.